Getting married is such a big change in one's life! I got married to Atul on 11 Jan 2006. Everyday after 11th Jan is an adventure, a fun-filled wonder to me! :)
I am experiencing a miracle for the past one month. The entire world seems to have changed its course. My heart is filled with exhileration when I remember the aura, the ecstasy, the perfectness of my wedding day. The state of numbness that day, due to an all-time high level of happiness ever attained. That stimulating time in Goa... Nothing can ever alter the thrill of this hallowed occasion!
George Bernard Shaw described marriage as the time "when two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions. They are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part."
Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love; and they blossom when we love the ones we marry. Maybe it is difficult to maintain this love all throughout our lives. Today, however, I am not able to see anything that can lessen this love. We have already had some tiffs that opened our eyes wide! But it is through such tiffs that you get to know your spouse even better. It is when you fight, that you realise the worth of your friend... The depth in the relationship grows stronger.
"The middle years of marriage are the most crucial. In the early years, spouses want each other and in late years, they need each other." -Rebecca Tilly. I totally agree with the part of wanting & needing your partner. Within a month's time, both of us have started growing used to each other. There isnt a single thing that we dont do together! This has started increasing the dependency. I am so sure that in the late years, this need for each other will grow much more. At this moment though, I am unable to imagine the middle years, which people call as challenging...
I believe that the kind of marriage you make depends upon the kind of person you are. If you are a happy, well-adjusted person, the chances are your marriage will be a happy one. If you have made adjustments so far with more satisfaction than distress, you are likely to make your marriage and family adjustments satisfactorily. If you are discontented and bitter about your lot in life, you will have to change before you can expect to live happily ever after.
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Amazinggg .. I really liked this post :-). Is it for people like me who still dont CRAVE for getting married ? But I must say .. reading this post and talking to 3 of you is very slowly bringing up that desire.. lets see when it gets fulfilled :-).
Interesting to see the perspective of someone "on the other side", so to say :-)
hmmmmmmmm.... i guess i should think about it sometime....
@meenal: 3??? ha number kuthun ala??
to omkar:
3 = prachi, sonali, mukta.
Sahii!! :)
Hey mukta!! I bumped into ur blog thru orkut! So glad to c here :D...Hearty congratulations! From what you have written, no doubts u had and are having a great time ;-) :)
And I loved this part "If you have made adjustments so far with more satisfaction than distress, you are likely to make your marriage and family adjustments satisfactorily. If you are discontented and bitter about your lot in life, you will have to change before you can expect to live happily ever after."
Makes a lot of sense :)
Keep writing!
Mukta..
Had no idea u cd pen ur thoughts so beautifully, and ur thoughts on marriage r so deep.. wow.. if u ever get tired of software u wd def get offers as a "agony aunt"..:-)))
Good one...I am actually going to bookmark your blog,
Congratulations!,
"May the candles always glow and the romance never end!"
Enjoy!
Even though I don't know you but believe me its nice to see two people in love!
God bless you! Have a wonderful and funfilled life.
good one !:)
highly intelligent and nice thoughts !!!
The best post I have read =) Well put =D
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