Friday, May 26, 2006

Feeling Lonely

What do you mean by feeling lonely?
Is it that, physically there is no one around you? There is no one to talk to, or to share some nice moments with? Or is it that, there are many people around you and yet you feel all alone?

Consider someone who has an outgoing nature. He makes a lot of friends. So when he "feels lonely", he can call just any of his friends. So logically, he will never feel lonely.
Consider someone who is an introvert. He likes to be by himself. He doesnt like being much with people. So why will he feel lonely? He will be content with himself.

And yet people talk that they feel lonely. They say loneliness haunts! Some even think about an abstract-someone and then they miss him!!

Is'nt feeling lonely all in the head? I believe, no one in this world is lonely. There is no feeling such as loneliness. What you actually get is the "missing-someone-syndrome". And because you miss someone, be it your best friend, your parents, or just anyone, you feel his empty place beside you. The situation is like- the person is in your heart, in your mind, but physically away from you. And you simply miss him.

Do you agree with me? Can I conclude: Feeling lonely is nothing but missing someone?

5 comments:

Prashanth(MSP) said...

ppl can be mentally distant too!

One can feel lonely and not miss anyone. Just that one is mentally (and maybe physically) distant from everyone.

Sonali said...

feeling loney need not be missing someone..it can missing something. need not be a person. Can be anything, a good book to read, a nice mountaint to climb, a good friend to talk to

Mukta A said...

@Prashanth(MSP):
what do u mean by being "mentally distant"? does it mean you are thinking of something else / someone else?
and when u r in such a state, its not necessarily tht u feel lonely... that mentally distant state is nothing but day-dreaming!

@Sonali:
agreed! :)

Anonymous said...

somebody expressed the same here
http://shabdabhramar.blogspot.com/2005/11/feeling-lonely.html

Anonymous said...

Lonely is in fact a feeling of may be helpless or hopeless due to no matter what you can not suddenly stop feeling that way. Can you miss someone if you ever had someone special? Feeling lonely is not necessary missing someone. Is I what I believe feeling unaffected or unloved.

Dania V.